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Writer's Block: Significant Choices
Jun. 7th, 2009 11:18 pm[Error: unknown template qotd]
Well, as I'm currently single - and part of the long-term, hidden (or at least not readily acknowledged by me til towards the end) issues... Yea - the "your friends or me" syndrome. Realizing just *how* damn miserable I was - and admittedly, had largely allowed myself to be manipilated/guilted - yea.
Next time - dude (or dudette - who knows?) must understand that I have 95% male friends - some of whom I've know nearly 1/2 my life. Birth of my son, 2 marriages, yea... I will not give up a friend for a SO. Cut *back* on my time hanging? Sure...
But as one of those friends-who-wants-more is having to be told - there's only so much time I have free post-mommytime & 2nd job. I DO have more than him to see & spend time with.
So the next time - when it happens - the SO loses. I once made the opposite choice - and is one of the few regrets I have in life - I lost almost 10 yrs of a friendship. Luckily, he & his (now) wife let me back into their life - and I count them both as good friends, and our sons hopefully will continue to be pals.
Well, as I'm currently single - and part of the long-term, hidden (or at least not readily acknowledged by me til towards the end) issues... Yea - the "your friends or me" syndrome. Realizing just *how* damn miserable I was - and admittedly, had largely allowed myself to be manipilated/guilted - yea.
Next time - dude (or dudette - who knows?) must understand that I have 95% male friends - some of whom I've know nearly 1/2 my life. Birth of my son, 2 marriages, yea... I will not give up a friend for a SO. Cut *back* on my time hanging? Sure...
But as one of those friends-who-wants-more is having to be told - there's only so much time I have free post-mommytime & 2nd job. I DO have more than him to see & spend time with.
So the next time - when it happens - the SO loses. I once made the opposite choice - and is one of the few regrets I have in life - I lost almost 10 yrs of a friendship. Luckily, he & his (now) wife let me back into their life - and I count them both as good friends, and our sons hopefully will continue to be pals.
